Real Men Love Jesus

Recently, during my drive home, I saw a bumpersticker that read "Real Men Love Jesus".

I immediately thought that I, then, must be a real man; if the sticker was correct. Because of the traffic and the long, long delays, I started think about what it means to be a real man where Christians, specifically Mormon Christians, are concerned. My thoughts over time, have evolved here and there. As they perculated, I wrote them down and later, re-read them only to find myself changing the direction of my commentary as I focused more and more on two things; loving Jesus and being a real man.

While I will address these thoughts to men and boys, I hope the women and girls who read them might find some value as well.

My first, early thoughts, were of a young man from the scriptures. His name was Abiathar.

He was the son of Ahimelech, one of the priests murdered by Saul after he has shown kindness to David by giving him bread from the temple, to eat.

Abiathar was able to escape and took with him one of the ephods worn by one of the 100+ priests slain by Saul in his rage and jealousy.He ran and found David who promised he would be safe.

A short time later David asked the young man to put on the ephod, which was likely very large and bulky to the boy, and seek the Lord's counsel as to what his strategy against both Saul's armies and those of the Philistines. In the pocket of the ephod, were the urim and thummim.

No doubt somewhat overwhelmed by the sheer weight of the ephod and the responsibility of wearing it, Abiathar sought God's counsel which counsel led David's small band of rebels to both victory and safety. This young man eventually became the High Priest of Judah, after David was on the throne and remained loyal to him until David's death.

Thinking of this story, I remembered how often in my youth I might have had some good ideas to offer adults at various times for various reasons and never once have them ask my opinion.

I suspect that part of the reason they didn't was that my choices as a youth were not always what they should have been; but I also believe adults, myself now included, often never consider the experience and councel from someone young will be of value even it it's considered at all. Fortunately for Israel, David was not that kind of adult.

I concluded then, that being a real man in the Lord means asking for and listening to wise counsel from any source but particularly that found in the hearts, minds and experiences of young people.

Now for a little advice to the young people. If you want your opinions to be considered and taken seriously those opinions need to be based on facts and founded on principle. They cannot be products of selfish motivations or the desire for personal achievement. When asked for counsel, make sure the counsel is righteous and not stupid. Also remember that Abiathar was reluctant. He was humble and understood that David was not really asking his opinion of anything but was seeking counsel from God through an authorized holder of the priesthood.

Also from the story of Abiathar, I conclude that he was a real man who loved the Lord.

You young men need to remember this story and look for ways to incorporate Abiathar's example into your own lives by paying attention to the things going on around you and weighing their spiritual value on the scales of eternal principles that can be found in the scriptures, in the words of our modern prophets and in quiet moments of fervent, sincere prayer.

You fathers of young men need to consider David's example in this story. You need to particularly pay attention if you are the father of a holder of the Aaronic Priesthood, which priesthood authorizes worthy bearers to receive personal and private ministering - or teaching - by angels (D&C 84:26). Perhaps you would be quicker to ask advice or counsel from sons when you consider that Peter referred to the Aaronic Priesthood not as the lesser priesthood but as a Royal Priesthood (1 Peter 2:9).

Fathers and sons might consider that on April 6, 1830, Joseph Smith was 24 years old and stood at the head of the newly restored Church among five other men, the youngest of whom was five years older than Joseph. Think that 10 years earlier God the Father and His Son determined to appear to the 14 year-old Joseph and call him to his holy assignment to open the last dispensation. Just three years later Joseph received the angelic message that his name would be had for good throughout the entire world (Joseph Smith - History 1:31).

In 2 Samuel 23, there is a detailed account of the actions of the finest soldiers under David’s command. At one time, only 37 individuals out of the huge armies of Israel were considered good enough to receive the coveted title of “mighty man” . (2 Sam 23)

In 2 Chronicles 12 we learn learn more about the qualities of this outstanding group of soldiers. In Chronicles we read: “They were armed with bows, and could use both the right hand and the left in hurling stones and shooting arrows out of a bow” (2 Chron. 12:2).

They were “fit for the battle, that could handle shield and buckler, whose faces were like the faces of lions, and were as swift as the roes upon the mountains” ( 1Chr. 12:8).

These mighty men had developed the skills of a warrior to a very high degree. They were determined and, as with the faces of lions, completely without fear. They were prepared for any battle.

One inspiring account tells of three of these mighty men who overheard King David long for a drink of water from the well of Bethlehem. Apparently, in Bethlehem at that time was a well of particularly refreshing water of which the king wished for a drink. The king did not place a demand or order for the water; he simply expressed a desire for a taste of the cool, refreshing liquid.

Without command or assignment or even duty, three of the mighty men broke through enemy lines, at great personal risk, to travel to Bethlehem. They drew water out of the well and returned, again at great risk through the enemy lines, to bring the wonderful refreshment to David. David was so overcome by this act of personal, unsolicited service that he refused to drink the water. He considered the act so brave and wonderful that he poured the water upon the ground. The scripture says, “He … poured it out unto the Lord”.

These were men who could "keep rank" and were not of a "double heart" (1 Chrn. 12:33)

They understood the need for an organization which would stay in place during difficult and challenging times. They did not have a “double heart” which compelled them to seek their own personal interests ahead of that of Israel. Because of their single heart, manifest by pure motives, they did not aspire to a different position or rank within the armies of David. Each of the 37 could absolutely depend upon the others to fulfill the assignment which came to them, whatever their rank.

Then in 1 Chronicles 12:38 we read: “All these men of war, that could keep rank, came with a perfect heart to Hebron, to make David king over all Israel: and all the rest also of Israel were of one heart to make David king”

This quality was the condition of their “perfect heart,” which was demonstrated by complete devotion to building the ancient kingdom of Israel. They had no agenda, personal or otherwise, which was separate from their commitment to the king and the building of Israel. They understood the divine nature of David’s station and offered their complete loyalty and devotion to him. Theirs was a perfect heart. So were the mighty men of Israel! They were real men.

Real Men Have Perfect Hearts

In 2nd Chronicles 12 we read the names and some of the deeds of the men we call David's Mighty men. The entire chapter is an exciting glance at a few real men; but I want to focus on one of the groups mentioned. The sons of Issachar in verse 32. The verse reads:

"And of the children of Issachar, [which were men] that had understanding of the times, to know what Israel ought to do; the heads of them [were] two hundred; and all their brethren [were] at their commandment."

I startles me to think that one of the duties of the real men of Christ, is to have an understanding of the times and to know what we, a remnant of Israel, must do and, I might add, when we must then do them.

So what must real men know of our times?

The airwaves are flooded with information. There is never a minute on any day that those with access to television or radio cannot watch something deemed as "news" by those who broadcast it. I think it is not unlike the apocalyptic visions seen by Moses. Elijah and others, where all the catastrophes, both temporal and spiritual in nature are set before us with amazing speed and scope. It's enough to turn an optimist into a cynic. Yet real men in Christ are not cynical. They are hopeful and they are joyful because of what they know with respect to the eternal nature of all things even if the temporal nature is dark and dreary.

Most Christians must rely of the scriptures and the interpretation of scriptures in the form of sermons delivered by mostly well-meaning preachers. They, like us, can rely on the arm of Jehovah to guide them through these last days of trouble and gloom.

As Latter-day Saints, however, we are blessed with a richer, deeper, and more critical knowledge which places the mantle of watchmen squarely on our shoulders. Those men of other Christian sects do not hold the priesthood. We do and, in effect, carry the burden of the ephod and its attendant urim and thummim.

Real men teach their families how to understand the times and lead them in that which they should do.

Real Men Know the Times and are Watchmen on the Tower

A few months ago, I sat in a stake priesthood meeting and heard two statistics. The sources of those statistics were named but I don't remember what they were. In any case they were shocking.

1. The state of Utah has more hits to porn sites on the internet, per capita, than any other state.
And:

2. In the Church, in the United States, one out of every three men participates in pornography at least once a week.

I don't know about you, but to me, those are stunning and tragic numbers.

How can we call ourselves real men in Christ if we are so eager to indulge our lusts? How can we look our sons in the eye and explain the value and necessity of chastity when we are participating in such vile entertainment?

I certainly don't pretend to have the solution to this problem except to suggest that anyone who might be participating in this activity, see his bishop and begin the repentance process.

Real men in Christ do not indulge in pornography.

Another startling fact in the Church surrounds the real sin of spousal and child abuse in all its ugly forms.

The priesthood gives men in the Church more responsibility, not more power over our wives. We must honor our wives, brethren, if we are to gain their respect and merit their love. We cannot honor them if we mistakenly believe we rule over them.

As for our children, can we be justified in our surprise if, after years of shouting, beating or other abuse, they leave the Church? How can we expect them to even seek a personal witness when they witness and are victims of such abuse during their childhood.

Real men in Christ do not abuse their wives or children.

There was an old story going around the Church a few years ago of a conversation between three Aaronic Priesthood boys.

"My dad always gets his Home Teaching done by the last of the month." Donny the Deacon said.

"My dad is better than yours because he always gets his done by the 15th." Tommy, the Teacher answered.

"Well," said Petey the Priest, "my dad has you both beat. He always does his the day BEFORE the first day of the month!"

Rare is the priesthood meeting in the Church where someone doesn't encourage us to do our Home Teaching. Oh, that our only encouragement would be that we do it better!

What good does understanding the times if we don't share that understanding with our friends in the Church? Are we real men in Christ if we hoard the knowledge for ourselves?

The Home Teacher represents the Elder's quorum president or the High Priest group leader, who in turn, report to the bishop. Home Teachers feed the flock, particularly that part of the flock that is wandering on strange paths or stuck alone in some corner of the meadow, alone and afraid.

Real men in Christ do their Home Teaching.

Three years ago President Hinckley issued the challenge to all members of the Church to read the Book of Mormon by the end of that year. The response of the members was overwhelming. In every corner of the world, faithful members cracked open their copies of the Book of Mormon and began reading. For many, even some who had been members their entire lives, it was the first time they read the book from cover to cover. For me, the impact was stunning. During that time I saw two friends who had left the Church for various reasons, return and both are not in full fellowship and finding joy in their testimonies once again. After each session of reading, during my prayers, I would ask the Lord to help my friends remember the peace that comes to the faithful.

Certainly others were praying for these people as well, so I can't take all the credit... I really can't take any of the credit. That belongs to my two friends and to God. Still, I think there is a thin thread of a connection.

The one mentionable miracle in my personal life that came from our reading of the Book of Mormon was the closeness I felt to my wife as we read together. I would not have believed I could love her more than I had before our reading. Sharing the scriptures with her, however, made our spirits connect is a way that doesn't generally occur outside of the Celestial Room.

We still read together almost every morning.

Real men in Christ read the scriptures regularly.

This list could go on and on and should include things like:

Real men in Christ pray always.

Real men in Christ pay a tithes and offerings.

Real men in Christ sustain their leaders.

Etc.

Each attribute of worthy manhood could be the subject of many sermons but I finally rested on two things real men in Christ will always do.

In the 22nd chapter of Matthew we find the Pharisees attempting to confound our Lord.

After centuries of arguing over the law and attempting to prioritize not only the nearly 400 articles legitimately associated with Mosaic law but also the thousands of traditional laws created by those who had lost the real meaning of the law and having no success in this prioritzation, they came tempting the Lord.

"Master," one Pharisee asked, "Which is the great commandment in the Law?"

The Savior, without any indication of hesitation answered this question of the ages.

"Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment.

And the second [is] like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets." (Matthew 22:37-40)

Thus it was that the Lord taught us not only the two great commandments but showed me that real men love our Heavenly Father and His Beloved Son and love and serve their neighbors.

If we demonstrate our manliness by obeying only these two commandments it is a witness that we have past the Lord's litmus test of our love found in John 14:15 "If ye love me, keep my commandments."

It is my prayer that we may all begin a daily regimine of spiritual calesthenics that we might be numbered among the Lord's mighty men.